The issue of hatred (WHILAL pt. 5)

Hiiiiiiiiii readersssss!!!

I am so sorry for missing past four weeks - balancing between school, job, organization, workout, and social life is consuming me. (Well, that was a lie, I just did not have any idea what to write. LOL). Alright, people say that February is the month of love, but I would take a perspective of hatred! So, enjoyyyyyyyyyyyyy.

I know that all of you have several people that you just hate because of their existence. If you don't have one, bless your heart. I believe that hating people is part of life and it is YOUR RIGHT to hate people because not everyone deserve to be loved or cared for.

However, do you realize that when you hate people you are wasting your energy for nothing? They might be happy or do not even realize that you hate them!
Yeah, I feel like by hating others you are a less happy person. They pass by or even hearing they breath made you very uncomfortable.

So, instead of hating them, I think we should be able to just ignore them. Ha! Isn't it fun to ignore people we hate so much? It seems that they have no power or effect on us at all! But the top solution would be stop hating them, forgive them for whatever they did and move on! Or you can be very nice to them. I believe that it will make them fell guilty and it will be a win win solution!

I introspected my self and I realize that sometimes it is very easy for me to hate people. Even if I do not know them at all. Isn't that ridiculous? But after a while, I make my decision to be a happier person by first ignoring them then forgive then tried to be very nice to them. And trust me, it works like magic!

Do you have any experience of hating people? Share it here! I would love to hear from y'all!

See you all on the next post!

“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, cause hate in your heart will consume you too.” -Will Smith-

Understanding Yourself Better (WHILAL pt. 4)

Hey All! I hope you all had a great start for this amazing year! I also hope all of you will achieve your new year resolutions! This will be my first post for this new year, I will try my best to keep posting some new stuff in this blog for those of you that might be interested.

Alright, as a kickoff, I would share you some of my reflection when I was in New York. Enjoyyyy! Oh, I will also share you some pictures during my winter break on the next post.

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Let's catch up a little bit. Several years ago when I was in Junior High and Senior High, I barely had friends. After little bit of tweak and twerk, most of my colleagues told me that my mean and arrogant attitude made most of my colleagues did not like me. At the end of my senior high, I had so many friends and they told me that I changed to a better person and I won their heart.

But I feel that I did not change that much; and sometimes I wonder why I was hated.

My reflection happened when I had a conversation with my good friend, Mike, about different cultural upbringing in different states in the US. He goes to USC in California, and his friends said that he is very rude. He told me that he was just being honest and straightforward because that is how people in New York City, honest and straightforward.

Then I my brain start thinking.  Was I hated because I was being honest and straightforward? Part of me said yes, because I realize sometimes I said what is in my mind without thinking about the circumstances. My colleagues thought I was mean because I did not make friends with everyone -- I only make friends to those who matter to me.

Being honest and straightforward is not wrong; but for me, I should understand the culture and circumstances better. As a note, in Indonesia, people are very very nice to everyone. Even nicer than Texan. We are supposed to be friends with most people around us.
And that's what I was hated for. I was not hated because I am honest and straightforward, I was hated because of my ignorance!

Voila!

My high school experience and my conversation with my friend in New York made me realize that I am less ignorant person today than several years ago. That lesson also taught me to be nice to everyone and I enjoy it! It also makes me understand myself better.

Do you think you understand yourself good enough? Share your story!

See you next post!

Christmas Greetings from Timmy

Dear Friends and Colleagues, 

I wish you a happy holiday and hope that you will always be in a great shape.

2013 has been a great year for me. And at the end of this year, I would like to share you some updates about me.

One of the most exciting updates is that I finally have some new friends. Ha! As you all know that I had some trouble finding friends in here last year. Thanks to the new organization that I am involved in this year, the Rawls College of Business Ambassador – and I am also just elected to be a Treasurer there. In the organization, I learned a lot about professional connections by having dinners and luncheons with donors and alumni; also give building tours to guests and prospective students. 

At the end of my third semester, I am so blessed with another 4.0 GPA. It has been three 4.0(s) and I will keep my tenacity for another 4.0 in the following semester. During the past fall semester, I also had a new job as a student assistant at the University Writing Center. I helped the Writing Center by managing the appointments, making phone calls, and greeting guests. I am working with great people and I love my job so much.

This semester, I have been living in an apartment with two other Indonesians. I am so excited because I have finally been able to eat rice every day and to make some Indonesian food such as soto, rawon, and rendang. I also made some homemade alfredo sauce, chicken katsu, and bake some brownies and cupcakes. My post-dormitory experience has been awesome. 

In terms of my education, currently I am a Finance major but I am thinking about adding a second major, it could be Accounting or Economics. Both second majors are interesting to me since I enjoyed my first accounting class and I always love economics. By next semester I will try to take one extra class every semester and I will make my decision from there.

Again, 2013 has been great to me; highlighted by some super exciting moments such as meeting with Ibu Sri Mulyani on April, having an internship at P.T. H.M Sampoerna over the summer, and being elected as Treasurer for the Business Ambassador. I hope you also had a great year, and I would love to hear back from you. 

I am honored to cross my paths with you, I am sure I would not be in the same journey if we had not crossed our paths.

I wish you a great holiday season, and please stay in touch.

Sincere regards,

Christian Timothy Wijaya

Finance

Rawls Business Ambassador

christian.t.wijaya@ttu.edu

The Law of Attraction

         Luke 11:9-10, “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” The verse is very simple, yet I have had so many magical experiences since I hold onto this verse about 5 years ago. I did not find the verse is very special up until I read a book titled “The Secret”. Basically, the book uses the verse in one of the chapters to explain the law of attraction, “Everything happened in your life is attracted by your thought. Good thoughts and good feeling will attract good things to happen and vice versa.”

            Many people do not agree with this value, because they think that it is impossible just to attract stuffs with thought. They said that people who believe in this value are over optimistic and not realistic. These people who disagree with this value mostly think that thought will literally attract something happen. They will say that if this value is real, there will be no poor people and everyone will be rich and successful. The problem with these non-believers is that they oversimplified the law of attraction. It is true that good thought will attract good things; however just thinking will not make everything happen.

             Since I read the book, I started to control my thought and my emotion to be positive most of times. It was not easy on the beginning, and it does not get easier because there are at least 600,000 thoughts pass through our minds every single day. One part of the book mentions that a person should believe that they can achieve what they want to achieve. I always want to travel overseas, however there were not many opportunities to travel for free. Up until a day when a foundation came to my school and mentioned that they would select one boy and one girl from my school to have a month study abroad in New Zealand.

            I realized that the opportunities might be the only opportunity for me to go overseas. I applied, and I had done my best in the selection process. I came to the final interview and everything seemed went very well for me. Yet, I was not selected. I was confused at that time; I feel like I had done my best and attracted the trip strong enough by imagining myself in New Zealand every day. Then I thought maybe I had to do better than just imagining it. I felt down for a couple of days, yet I know that if I kept attracting the overseas travel, there would be another chance. As a part of my redemption, I made a visa even though there was no opportunity for me, and I kept telling my close friends that I would go overseas before I turned 17. The New Zealand process was on April, about seven months before my 17^th birthday. It might sounds crazy, but the next thing happened I was on my flight to UK on September the same year I was selected by British Council to represent my country for UK school games, British Council only selected one boy and one girl from all around Indonesia. Even up until this point, I could not believe that my first trip was actually happened. I was not selected when I competed with my school friends, yet when I competed with all people in Indonesia, I made it. 

In the U.K with some other volunteers

            My first overseas trip to UK before my 17^th birthday made me believe that the law of attraction does actually work, and it made me keep myself positive. On August the year after, I was selected to be the only representative from Indonesia to an International Camp in Japan. And the year after Japan trip, I found myself in Lubbock, studying Finance at Texas Tech University. Then I started to recall that I have been attracting about studying overseas for my undergraduate degree since I was seven years old. My dad reminded me during our Skype call sometimes ago that I have been telling everyone that I want to go overseas for my university since I was seven. And my dad always kept telling me that as long as I keep working hard and pray hard, someday my dreams would become realities. 

My winning group in Japan - Group R!

             The things that happened to me did not always the same with the thought that I have. I realize that I cannot actually attract specific things happened in my life. When I wanted the New Zealand trip, it did not happen to me. During my application to college, I wanted to go to Cornell, but it also did not happen to me. Even after I graduated from middle school, I did not want to go to my high school. These three are very small examples compared to what have happened in my life, I could not specifically request things to happen. However, I always end up to stuffs that I needed instead of what I wanted. If I did not go to my high school, I might not end up studying in the U.S. If I was selected to go to New Zealand, I might not go to U.K. There is no rocket science about why and how these things happened. And every time, all things always work together for my good.

            I realized that my experiences made me have a counter argument for the non-believer. The idea of law of attraction is not just attracts thoughts and it will happen to our life. The idea of the law of attraction is that positive thoughts will keep us stand even though the circumstances let us down. Many people say that it is not genius person will be successful, but those who never give up no matter how hard is the condition. The other reason why law of attraction works is because positive thoughts lead to positive attitude that makes people around me have faith in me that lead to myself believing that I can be the person I want to be in the future. Started from my best friends in high school who supported me when I told them about me going overseas before my 17^th birthday, up until my friends and professors today that support me when I told them about my dream to be the Indonesian Finance Minister in the future.

            Positive thought does not directly attract good things happen to our life, but it indirectly leads us to reach our dreams by giving us optimism to face tough condition. It also gives us belief by having positive attitudes that lead us to people that support our dream. As a bonus, our positive thoughts will give us energy and inspiration to people around us. I might not live long enough to face hard condition in life; but in my young age I know that this value will keep me going on through life whatever happened in the future. 

“if you tell yourself you feel fine, you will.” -Jodi Picoult

Highlights of My 20 Years Life

0 year old:
It is the day, when my mom gave birth to an ugly baby (that's what she said when she looked at me for the first time, LOL) and my dad gave me name : Christian Timothy Wijaya

Kindergarten:
I loved drawing back then. No idea how. I lose at a city competition when I was five and that took my drawing passion away. Up until today, I cannot draw anymore. LOL.

A picture of me when I was about three

Elementary School:
I was very active in a badminton club. I even was the city champion among all elementary school students! I also started to involved in Mathematics Olympiad. When I was seven, I started to tell everyone that I would like to go overseas for my undergraduate - even though back then I had no idea how would I go overseas - and my dad always support me and my dream.

My 13th Birthday:
It is the day. The day when I knew that my mom had a tumor on her womb. The day that I decided to do everything to make her happy. She even had her surgery on my birthday. Somehow, I turned into an ambitious boy that did not want to care about my surrounding.

Running for President of Student Organization
One of the worst moment in my life. I was running for president and I was discriminated because I am a Christian. I had done my best, yet I lost by landslide.

 

Me in Junior High - I only weigh about 115 pounds (54 kgs)

Another Junior High Stuffs
I barely had any friends in Junior High. I probably one of the most hated person and I didn't realize it up until I reflected back during my high school years.
I started to be interested in basketball.

High School
I learned one of the most important lesson in my life about being humble and care about people around me.
I gave up on pursuing Mathematics Olympiad and started writing stuffs.

Still very thin. 6 months in High School.

Last Day of Class in High School - I gained almost 40 pounds during high school. LOL.

Travelling around the Globe
After I learned my lesson about humility, my life is just getting better. My favorite parts of high school were when I represented my country twice to UK and Japan. :)

Me with Winter Olympic Gold Medalist - UK 2010

Me with my house family - Japan 2011

My College Experiences
I am so blessed to be able to study overseas for my undergraduate. It is a huge decision for me since I have to leave my family and friends behind in Indonesia. I hope this decision pays off one day.

First Snow

Growing Up!

This is a glimpse of my 20 years' life. I hope you find this post interesting!

A Reflection on My 20th Birthday

Before I started my reflection, I would like to praise the God Almighty for His blessing that never end in my life. I would thank Him for my amazing family, amazing friends, amazing opportunities, and for everything that had happened and will happen in my life.

Who am I?
I was born in a very humble family in Kediri, East Java, Indonesia. My dad is a salesman for a small syrup company, and my mom is a private tutor for elementary school students. Even though we are not rich, we always have enough to fulfill our daily necessity. I recalled how we were all riding the on a motorcycle everywhere (p.s there are five of us on the same motorcycle! -- my dad, my mom, me, my bro, and my sis). It should be illegal, but for me it was a really fun time.

Education Background:
I went to a Catholic kindergarten and elementary school. I had so many good friends then - even I still talk to some of them up until now. Then I continue my study to a public Junior High still in Kediri. After I graduate, I received a full scholarship to go to a high school, three hours away from my hometown. And I am so blessed that all of these led me up to study Finance at Texas Tech University, U.S.

Reflection:
I am so blessed to be in my position right now and even if I have a chance, I would not change anything that I did in the past. Back in my younger days, I used to be a very competitive boy that would like to win everything. Without I realize that I rubbed off some of my colleagues due to my behavior. Yet, I finally learned that my life would not worth much if I do everything for myself. I started to learn humility, a value that I did not understand up until my high school years. Now I understand that I receive more happiness when I do something not just for me but also for others around me. I have realized that I am small - very small - and should never be arrogant about anything.

Twenty. Yes, I do not even believe that I am not a teen anymore. A new age, new responsibilities. I know that I had done so many bad stuffs when I was a teen. I was not perfect, I am not perfect, and I will never be perfect.

On this new age, I would like to be a better person. To be a more humble person. To be an honest person. Learn to lose and let go. Put maximum efforts on everything I do. Always be blessing to everyone I meet. To be closer to God. And to always be happy and thankful no matter what is the circumstances. And above all, I pray for my parents to be healthy forever and my brother and sister to be successful.

There is nothing sure about the future, yet I am nervous and excited at the same time to walk a new path.

"God gave us the gift of life; it is up to us to give ourselves the gift of living well"

- Voltaire

One Hour Thought – Dreaming

I just watched a TV show titled “Suits” before letting my thoughts take over. It told a story about life as a successful lawyer in the biggest law firm in New York City. Success that is defined as a glamorous life filled with jobs and winning lawsuits. I imagined myself could be in the position of the main character of the TV show. He is so in love with his job and his job has always been his passion. Many people believe that having a job that we are passionate about will make us happy and live longer. Yet, my internship experience last summer made me rethink that most people are not lucky enough to have a job in their expertise and passion. 

credit: cosmicwarriors.wordpress.com

I realize that so far I have been living my dream. I have had chances to travel to many countries, I am taking a major that I passionate about, I always do things that I love to do, like cooking, eating good food, and being happy. During my almost 20 years’ journey, my life has not been perfect. Sometimes I have to experience failure, feel sadness and insecurity, and fear about my future. I had an internship over last summer, and I was proudly telling people that one day I would like to be the Finance Minister of my country. I believe that being the Finance Minister could actually impact my country positively. However, I received some sarcastic feedback from some people in my workplace saying, “Let Timmy become an idealist because he is still young,” or “Let him believe what he would like to achieve.”

I was surprised and little bit offended when I heard such comments. I was not aware that I would receive such feedback while telling people about my long-term dream. During my one hour thinking, I was wondering the reason behind their sarcasm regarding my dream. I came up with a thought that those people believe that they had their dream taken away from them by circumstances. When I realized the reason behind their sarcasm, I thought that one day I could be one of them who feel sour about life and not enjoying their job. 

I had an argument inside my head about what could possibly happen to me in the future. Positively, I believe that no matter what happen, I should let my dream live and try to pursue the value of it. If I could not be the Finance Minister who affects economy policies, I would be a person who affects people’s economy around me, maybe by creating some jobs or having a non-profit organization. Negatively, I would let the circumstances made me bitter. It is hard to get over a condition where my dream is taken away. That night, I have made my decision that I will keep living up my dream even though it is just the value of it. One day when I grow older and bitterness of life take away my dream; I would remember the night and pull up this writing to remind myself of my choice. 

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt